Are you asexual? by Lisa Angelettie
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"Does Your Sexless Marriage Have You Thinking About Divorce" by Karl Augustine
"Does Your Sexless Marriage Have You Thinking About Divorce"
Karl Augustine
If you are in a sexless marriage and are unhappy because of it, dont worry, it isnt unrecoverable but it is serious cause for concern. You may even be thinking that you need a divorce because of your sexless marriage, thats only natural. But, in order to really decide what to do, some thinking needs to be done so you feel good about your decision, regardless if you stay married or not.
Being stuck in a sexless marriage can have you feeling a wide range of feelings from loneliness, listlessness, confusion, unconfident, etc. These feelings come about for a variety of reasons and they can be overcome if you just figure out why youre in a sexless marriage. You need to get to the root of the problem and uncover the real reasons that you and your spouse are no longer sexually active assuming of course, you once were!
To get to the heart of the causes for a sexless marriage will take some time. On the surface, you may be thinking that the cause of your sexless marriage may include one or more of the following scenarios:
Sexless Marriage: "We both work too much!":
You both work extremely hard and there just never seems to be enough time to get together, your schedules are skewed. This is true a lot nowadays with the new economy, lots of couples are married but just live together like roommates if both parties have time-consuming careers. If not managed properly, it is unfortunate but common for people in this type of lifestyle to end up in a sexless marriage.
Sexless Marriage: "You work, I stay home with the kid/s!":
One of you works very hard with your career and one of you stays home to raise the children child, which is equally as hard as any career! This situation can lead to a sexless marriage in many cases because of the seemingly disparate priority base of each party. The spouse with the career may need to work after hours, travel, or attend "post work" functions and the spouse who stays home raising the children child may not have any other outlet for relaxation away from the home front. This situation can easily lead to a sexless marriage because there may be underlying feelings from both sides that contribute to an already tough situation based on personal and work related schedules.
The spouse with the career may say at times, "Why do you think I work so hard I do it for you, the kids, our family, etc.". The spouse who stays home with the children child may say at times, "You have another release, you have social interaction daily with the outside world. I feel stuck here sometimes, I need to get out and have time for myself.". If the spouse that stays home feels like the spouse with the career enjoys being out and working more than being home, that calls for a whole different and escalated level of concern! Chances are the sexless marriage was bound to be that way before the current situation even arose.
Sexless Marriage: "I dont know why...theres just no spark left, you dont pay enough attention to me and our sex life and I guess I dont either!":
This is a common sexless marriage situation and it can be caused by a variety of things including emotional scars, bad experiences, boredom, laziness, etc. In this situation, there is deep cause for concern from both parties because both parties arent happy sexually but dont really know why it ended up this way. Both parties have just "let things go" and didnt place a high enough priority on their sex life with their spouse, which in and of itself is very concerning.
Why would either or both parties let things get this way when love making is so important
Sometimes theres a feeling of being taken for granted that can occur in this type of sexless marriage, and both parties should realize that sex is a basic human need and should take priority over other things at the right time. It takes work to get out of this type of sexless marriage, you need to sit down and figure out why your marital love life has dwindled. If you both really want to rekindle things, you can do so, but you both need to take equal responsibility for correcting the problem.
Whatever type of sexless marriage you are in theres certainly more types than listed here, remember that it is not unrecoverable. If youre to the point of thinking about getting a divorce because of your sexless marriage, take the time to sit down and figure out how it got to be the way it is now.
If youve lost interest in your spouse from a sexual point of view, you need to define exactly why that occurred. If you dont know right off hand, you need to think back to a time when you did have the spark and recall what you both were doing, feeling, thinking, etc. From that point, identify what has changed, why it has changed, and what you can do about it. When you get that portion figured out, you may well on your way to taking the first step of recovering from your sexless marriage. Remember, if you really want to rekindle your relationship, you can.
About The Author
Karl Augustine
"A Practical Guide To Deciding Whether Or Not To Get A Divorce" deciding on divorce sexless marriage
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How Many Sex Offenders Live On Your Block by Julie Joyce
How Many Sex Offenders Live On Your Block
Julie Joyce
For any parent, learning that a convicted sex offender lives on the same block, can be a chilling discovery. The thought of it alone, can be disturbing. Most parents cant imagine that someone, who could be so potentially dangerous, may live somewhere on their block or along the path their child takes to school. However, it is highly likely that there are registered sex offenders in your neighborhood.
Beginning in the mid 1990s legislative actions established guidelines for tracking convicted sex offenders and making such information available as part of a community notification effort. In 1994 the Jacob Wetterling Act began requiring states to register individuals convicted of sex crimes against children. The "Pam Lychner Sexual Offender Tracking and Identification Act of 1996" was enacted by Congress to provide for the nationwide tracking of convicted sexual predators. "Megans Law" 1996 further served to clarify the public nature of information and authorized the release of relevant information that is necessary to protect the public. Together, these three key pieces of legislation have shaped the structure of sexual registries, nationwide. Today, almost every state maintains a registry of sexual offenders, and makes this information easily accessible via the internet. Some states may not allow online access. However, they will explain, online, the procedure to follow to gain access to their registry.
Currently there are approximately a half of a million registered sex offenders in the United States. They live in cities and towns all across the country. They are in "poor" and "affluent" neighborhoods. And they could be on your block. The twice-convicted pedophile who raped and murdered Megan Megans Law Kanka lived across the street from her home. Every parent should make it a priority to do a quick search to educate themselves about potential risk exposures thatmay be "dangerously" close. It is commonly said that, "What you dont know can hurt you." But more importantly, what you do know can save your life!
As you search the various databases it is important to realize some important issues. Not all databases are complete. Some only have listings for a small time period. Others only list certain types of sex offenses. While these registries represent a noble effort to empower the community with access to information about dangerous individuals that may still pose a threat, they are by nature incomplete. Not all jurisdictions update and maintain them with the same level of commitment. And compliance to maintain them is not known. You must also realize that every "offender" had a first victim and not every offender is caught. Those offenders would not be listed on any registry or criminal database.
The FBI maintains links to the various states registries. Access their links at: http://www.fbi.gov/hq/cid/cac/states.htm . However, surprisingly it is not the most up-to-date list available. The Klaas Kids site is a good site with extensive details about the types of offenders that appear on the various states registries. Access their database at: http://www.klaaskids.org/pg-legmeg.htm . And a newly updated link list has just been posted at the SafeKidsReport site, at: http://www.SafeKidsReport.com .
For parents, access to this invaluable information will serve many goals. One, it will help families to identify potential risks in their own neighborhoods. Two, it will encourage parents to initiate defensive behavioral changes that may dramatically protect their children from predators. And third, it will inspire parents to educate their children about the dangers that exist and the safety strategies that will help to protect them from harm.
About The Author
Julie Joyce is the Editor of "Safe Kids Report" - a newsletter dedicated to helping parents protect their kids from a variety of dangers. Parents can access Free Child ID Kits and other free family safety resources, at: http://www.SafeKidsReport.com
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Graphology for Sex / Graphology and Sex by Nilesh Gore
Graphology for Sex / Graphology and Sex
Nilesh Gore
First of all Thanks for coming this to page. Our sexual drive has effect on our personality & impacts our personal- social -professional- Social Success & development ratio. Before marriage or before experimenting the sex every person thinks about his / her stamina and how long he can sustain the inner drive. Person is also confused on whether his / partner can satisfy sexually or not.
Graphology can help you to solve this all. Relationship cant be fruitful without the sound psychosexual relation between partner.
Following exclusive things can be revealed by graphology.
1: Who is the person who definitely wants to stay away form the spouse
2: Which wife fights with her husband, when they are having food
3: who is the person serving opposite sex physically, financially & socially
4: Who is unable to give physical satisfaction to opposite sex
5: How strongly is the person active in sex
6: Extra love and affection for romance
7: Extra love and affection with harsh, rough, cruelty choices for romance.
8: Willing & supporting to opposite sex for being stronger.
9: Wants romance but not ready to take risk for it, Wants romance but preference giving to duties & responsibilities.
10: Not happy with partner, Restricting himself from romance
11: Has no patience for romance
12: Early orgasm & problems in reproductive system
13: Sex drive sustainability & the way he performs sex.
14: Imagination & time spends on sexual topics.
These are the key things & other many things can be revealed by graphology related to life-partner & sex.
By graphology it is possible to improve the inner drive & to eliminate the problems regarding sex or regarding reproductive system but age & timeframe a very important factor here. This is the magic of graphology that neither you have to make any tests nor to perform attempts, all happens just with your handwriting. It is better to know the sexual elements of your partner.
You can help us for our research on sexual impotence /sex related problems of human beings for free of cost.
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The Health Benefits of Sex by Susie Michelle Cortright
The Health Benefits of Sex
Susie Michelle Cortright
Quick quiz: Would you rather run 75 miles or have sex three times per week for a year Research shows that both activities burn the same number of calories. 7,500, to be exact.
We often think that something that feels good can’t possibly be good for us. Now it’s time to think again.
Sex in a loving, intimate relationship has numerous health benefits. In women, for example, the sexual act triggers the release of oxytocin. Oxytocin promotes feelings of affection and triggers that nurturing instinct. In men, sex encourages the flow of testosterone, which strengthens bones and muscles and helps transport DHEA, a hormone that may be important in the function of the body’s immune system.
Paul Pearsall, Ph.D., author of Superimmunity, also maintains that sex in a loving relationship helps the immune system by increasing the flow of certain chemicals in the body.
Hugh O’Neill, editor of Men’s Health magazine, recently listed some health benefits of sex, as well. Regular sex is regular exercise and has similar benefits, including improved cholesterol levels and increased circulation. Men’s Health also reported that men who have sex at least three times each week may have a decreased risk of developing prostate problems.
Sex, like exercise, releases endorphins. Endorphins contribute to the runner’s high and diminishes pain levels.
An active sex life may help us live longer, too. Dr. David Weeks, a clinical neuropsychologist at Scotland’s Royal Edinburgh Hospital, conducted a study of 3,500 people ranging in age from 18 to 102. Weeks concluded that sex actually slows the aging process.
Sexual therapists remind us that frequent sex is a form of exercise. And feeling secure in a relationship leads to feeling happier, which could lead to greater health--and a younger look.
In fact, these studies indicate that intimacy plays a key role in the health benefits of sex. A promiscuous sexual relationship may actually produce an opposite effect by introducing a sense of anxiety and fear.
In spite of all these health benefits and the sheer pleasure of the act, Americans may still need a boost. At least one-third of American couples report "inhibited sexual desire," according to The Masters and Johnson Institute.
Sex therapists say sex acts on the principal of "use it or lose it." So, for your heart, mind, and soul, the best advice may be to "Just do it!"
About The Author
Susie Michelle Cortright is the author of several books for women, including Rekindling Your Romance After Kids, and founder of the award-winning Momscape.com, a website designed to help busy women find balance. Visit http://www.momscape.com today and get Susies *free* courses-by-email "6 Days to Less Stress" and "Rekindling Your Romance After Kids."
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Herbal Sex Supplements by Dr. Michael Rodriguez, M.D.
Herbal Sex Supplements
Dr. Michael Rodriguez, M.D.
There are numerous herbal supplements on the market today that increase sexual performance and satisfaction. How is one to choose which of these products is the right one to try Trying to sort through the various descriptions can be time-consuming and frustrating. Therefore, when delving into the world of herbal sex supplements, it is important to know basic information concerning herbal remedies.
When looking for an herbal remedy, it is important to find one that states it falls under the category of herbal Se supplements. The Se stands for standardized extract, meaning the ingredients are carefully measured and formulated so that each tablet or capsule contains the exact same portion of ingredients. Some herbal supplements do not offer this imperative procedure; therefore, the doses will vary, even in the same bottle.
In order to gain such goals as penis enlargement, increased sperm count, or heightened sexual desire, the incorporation of herbal Se supplements is the key. With anything else, results will vary due to the variance in the dosages taken daily. When dosages vary, consistent results are much more difficult, if not impossible, to achieve.
A prime example of herbal Se supplements can be found by researching supplements such as the MacaEnhancer or Vig-Rx. There are numerous herbal Se supplements available, and finding which one is right for your needs is simply a matter of research. Maca root has become in an increasingly popular herbal sex supplement. When combined with amino acids, the mixture will result in not only enhanced sex, but also increased semen production. When shopping for herbal sex supplements, look for ones that contain those two key ingredients and try to find one that offers vitamins as well.
Getting the right ingredients from a supplement that utilizes a standardized extract procedure will ensure that you’re using a quality product, leading to the best results. When researching for the right supplement to use, the very first thing to look for is if the supplements being studied are herbal Se supplements. If not, then do not waste any time or money on them. There are simply too many other products available that are proven to work without wasting effort on those supplements that are made with less than quality standards.
About The Author
Dr. Michael Rodriguez is an innovator who has spent the past decade researching male sexual health.
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Longer Sex by Dr. Michael Rodriguez, M.D.
Longer Sex
Dr. Michael Rodriguez, M.D.
Many of us longingly dream of having longer sexual encounters that will leave us breathless. We see vivid and tempting displays of such pursuits on the television and in movies, read enticing depictions in books, and even hear others speak of long and enjoyable sexual experiences that blew their minds. Why then, aren’t you able to enjoy longer and greater sex
You can. In fact, many individuals are enjoying much longer sex. Do these lucky individuals have a magic potion They may have a potion, but it’s not magic and it likely comes in the form of an herbal supplement. By simply trying the available products on the market that are specifically designed to increase male enhancement, millions are enjoying better, longer sex.
While in the past, problems concerning erection quality were a taboo subject that was rarely, if ever, talked about; that is no longer the case in the modern day. More and more men are becoming open to discussing this personal dilemma and are actively and aggressively seeking answers that will allow them to enjoy longer sex and more intense sexual encounters. The result of this increasing desire for a solution has resulted in the incorporation of intensive research of the mysteries of penile erections. Because of the increase in research, products have been developed that have been proven to enhance erection quality and provide millions with longer sex.
There are a number of supplements available on the market that will enable men to increase the size of their erections and the duration of their sexual activities. However, a few of these products go one step further by going beyond the simple goal of increasing one’s erection size. There are actually supplements that not only enable a man to enjoy a much harder erection, but also allow the body to develop more stamina, increased desire, and even reduce the stress and anxiety one can feel when they are concerned about their sexual performance. By combining all of these factors, one can experience a much longer and an extremely intense sexual session.
Unlike Viagra, many of these supplements are natural supplements that can be purchased over the counter. Because of this, men can avoid the embarrassment of discussing the problem with their family doctor as they can order the supplements without a prescription. There are numerous alternatives available that will promote longer sex and as a result, an improved sex life. Men no longer have to dream about having longer sex; many are now experiencing it thanks to the great strides these supplements have made.
About The Author
Dr. Michael Rodriguez is an innovator who has spent the past decade researching male sexual health.
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Sex & Pregnancy...Do They Mix by Tara Grant
Sex & Pregnancy...Do They Mix
Tara Grant
As a pregnant woman, you may experience sex drives much like your moods. Up and Down! Some women claim that they have no sex drive at all during pregnancy, and others, say their sex drive is better during pregnancy. With changes to your body happening so quickly, your moods and dives may also change just as quick!
Here are some common questions often asked by pregnant women with helpful answers!
Is it safe to have sex during all trimesters of pregnancy
If there is no pain during sex and your not a high risk pregnancy, then sex is perfectly safe! If you are experiencing pain, or have a history of miscarriages, or any complications, consult with your medical professional.
I do not have any desire for sex, is this normal
Every womans pregnancy is different. While some women experience an increase in their sex drive, others may experience a decrease. Many women that are experiencing morning sickness, have no desire for sex at all. This is fine, and actually perfectly normal. Who wants to make love when they feel sick As you enter your 2nd trimester, most of the time the morning sickness will start to vanish. Once this happens, you will feel better and your sex drive many appear. If you seem to just have no desire for sex at all, there are other ways to satisfy your needs and your partners needs for intimacy, such as kissing and holding each other.
Are there any positions that are more comfortable during my later months of pregnancy
Once your belly begins to grow, it may become uncomfortable to have sex in the "man on top" position. The "spoon" position has become pretty popular among pregnant women! In this position, each partner lays on their side, with the man in the back. This way your belly is not in the way and your body is still flat.
Is it true that sex can induce labor
According to medical professionals, there is a chemical in semen, that will soften the cervix, and aid in the labor process. However, sex will not actually induce labor. The semen can assist the labor process once it has begun, but will not actually cause labor to begin. If you are experiencing contractions, consult with your medical professional.
If you have any other questions that have not been addressed, talk with your medical professional! He or She would be more than willing to offer answers to your questions!
About The Author
Tara Grant, owner of http://www.awomansresource.com and http://www.designbytara.com. Tara is a warm-hearted entrepreneur, mother of 2 small children and an avid networker in the parenting communities!
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Enhance Sex Drive - Know About Natural Herbs by AyurvedicCure.com
Enhance Sex Drive - Know About Natural Herbs
AyurvedicCure.com
Did you know that certain food that you eat evaluate your passion and makes your love life more pleasurable and hot! If your love life has turned sour, then you can sweeten things up with delicious mood foods guaranteed to stir your passions and bring back charm in your life.
Ginger: Ginger has long been considered a spicy treat for lovers. It is said to sharpen the mind so one can focus all their attention toward the act of love making!
Garlic: It enhances sex drive to such enormous level that love making turns out to be a real passion. So have garlic in your diet regularly.
Chocolate: Known as the "Love Chemical" . It contains phenethylamine that is released in the brain when positive emotions such as falling in love are expressed.
Ashwagandha: Potent stress calmer, calms down anxiety. Rasayan gives energy.
Hot N Spicy: The extra hot and spicy foods heat up the desires and put them in a romantic mood. Try getting ready for some red-hot romance with red- hot chillies and hot and spicy curries.
Love Potion: Add ginseng, rose petals, cinnamon sticks to your favourite beverage. Let it steep for 1-2 weeks and strain well. Wine or juice added to it wiill bring your partner in the mood for love.
Lifestyle:
Eliminate stress as much as possible from your life
Meditation is very helpful to help relax the mind and enhance the normal functions.
Change your diet: At first a diet that lowers toxins is adviced for several weeks, followed by a low protein diet according to your constitution. This should be accompanied with Kohinoor Gold Capsules with warm milk
Ayurveda gives three guidelines:
Vata people have the least stamina, so should ejaculate the least
Pitta people are average in stamina
Kapha people have the greatest capacity for ejaculation
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Inadequate Sex Awareness Poses Adolescent Health Risk by Billy I Ahmed
Inadequate Sex Awareness Poses Adolescent Health Risk
Billy I Ahmed
It is not uncommon, in a country like Bangladesh, that conversation about sexual issue remains a taboo. It is high time, that such taboo should be unshackled. Else, the ticking time bomb of HIV/AIDS could peter out risking 23percent adolescents of 130 million adolescents population of Bangladesh or face the supposedly sub-Saharan Africa’s consequence- it is said, within a span of ten years millions of children’s will vanish in the Sub-Saharan Africa, who are born with AID.
Recently, during a news briefing at Dhaka on 29 September 04, an official of UNFPA, said, poor knowledge of sex among adolescents poses a threat to their reproductive health. According, to Suneeta Mukerjee, the country director, Bangladesh UNFPA, “Parents must speak freely with their growing children about sex to ensure healthy living.”
On 31 August 04, at Rangpur a town in Northern Bangladesh, 335 kilometers from Dhaka, the capital of Bangladesh, an advocacy meeting was arranged by Social Marketing Company SMC.
Severe concern over the prevailing Sexually Transmitted Diseases STD, Human Immune Defiance Virus HIV and Acquired Immune Syndrome AIDS in Bangladesh and in the surrounding countries was discussed in the meeting. The present number of 13,000 HIV positive patients in Bangladesh is not an accurate figure, the number is higher, reported the Non-Government Organisations NGO.
Some NGO officials working in the field in Rangpur region said, the number of STD patients is alarmingly rising. The patients include even a large number of school going children from class eight up to university levels. They are taking all types of drug,
Adopting all means opening the huge door for HIV/AIDS vulnerability.
The advocacy meeting was participated by Government, NGO officials, physicians, journalists, Imams who leadprayers in the mosque, also it refers to titles of various Muslim religious leaders.of different Mosques and the elities of the town.
Most opposition to sex education in Bangladesh is based on the assumption that knowledge is harmful. But research in this area reveals that ignorance and unresolved curiosity, not knowledge, are harmful. This issue was identified in a face to face interactive dialogue jointly organised by UNFPA The United Nations Population Fund and CWD Concerned Women Development in observance of “World AID Day” Participated by some twenty-four teens of both sexes from the country. The teens identified religious ignorance, absence of appropriate approach on sex education in the curricula at secondary level of education as impediment to organising effective programs against HIV/AIDS.
Recalling, what La Rochefoucauld, French classical author said, about youth-“youth is a perpetual intoxication; it is the fever of reason,” it is this fever of reason, that is driving the adolescents who due to obscenity and ignorance indulge in early sex, being vulnerable to STD and AIDS infection. Our failure to tell children what they want and need to know is one reason why we have the out-of-wedlock teen’s pregnancy and abortion, even risk them to sexually transmitted diseases STD acquired immune deficiency AID.
For parents of today, sex is a dirty word. They feel uncomfortable in discussing sex education with their children. But are we aware on an average a child is exposed to 9000 sexual scenes per year. These parents should know that sex is not always a dirty word. It is an important aspect of our life. The main reason parents do not or cannot discuss sex education with their children is because of the their cultural upbringing, their religious training. They are often brought up in a state of ignorance in regard to sex issues.
What is sex education and who should give it
Is sex education about knowing the anatomy and physiology of the human body or about the act of sex or about reproduction and family life or about prevention of sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancy The problem with this is that at the present time sex Ed taught is incomplete. It does not cover morality associated with sex, sexual dysfunction and deviations.
Who should teach sex
With regard to the question that should teach sex education, I believe everyone has to play his or her role. Parents have to assume a more responsible role. A father has a duty to be able to answer his sons questions and a mother has the same duty to her daughter. We can hardly influence the sex Ed taught schools but we could supplement that with ethical and moral dimension adding family love and responsibility.
Hazards of early sex: A variety of injuries are possible and do happen when sex organs are not ready for sex in terms of full maturation. Some of these injuries have Cervical cancer has been thought to be related to sex at an early age and with multiple partners.
Why do children get involved in sex
There are many reasons why children get involved in sex. The most common reason, detachment from home can lead to attachment elsewhere.
Sexual pressure on them is everywhere, from the TV where about 20,000 sexual scenes are broadcasted in advertisement, soap operas, prime time shows and MTV. The hard core rock music nowadays fans the flames of sexual desires. Most parents do not know what kind of music their children are hearing. If they care and listen to rock songs like Eat Me Alive Judas Priest, The Last American Virgin, Tina Turner, Material Girl Madonna, they will know that these songs have pornographic words and sentences which made Kandy Stroud, a former rock fan, begged parents to stop their children from listening to what she calls Pornographic Rock”. Six out of ten as young as eight years in Bangladesh watch Indian TV channels. These channels can be termed as sex stimulators, be it a music or a serial. Instead, the parents should encourage their kids to watch channels like Discovery, History and Animal Planet; they are both educative and entertaining.
Research shows music does affect sexual mood. It does so by activating melatonin, the hormone from the pineal gland in the brain, which is turned on by darkness and turned off by flashing lights. It is the same gland that has been thought to trigger puberty and affects the reproductive cycle and sex mood.
What is the role of parents
Parents should control the music children are listening to or the TV program they are watching, the magazines they are reading, and the clothes they are wearing. Take the case of Phola Baisak, you find young girls attired in Holud Sari Turmeric Colour with matching bangles and Tipa colourful spot in the forehead not only they look graceful but reflects our cultural value and very next day back to jeans and tops- which may provokes desire amongst the young opposite sex.
About dating:
Many of the pregnancy occur at the end of the date and are not reported. According to a news agency in one it’s write-up reports sex dating in Bangladesh is prevalent, however it mentions,“even though there is no reliable statistics, the incidence is growing, expert says.” Few notorious cyber cafes are hub of porno with cozy coops ideal spot for “smooch dating!”
Anything which breaks down sexual inhibition and loss of self-control i.e. alcohol, drugs, petting or just being together for two member the opposite sex in a secluded place should not be allowed for teenagers. We must remember that, these young adolescents are a major segment of our population who will soon enter the reproductive and sexually active stage of life all potential target to STD and HIV.Therefore, before it is too late, the teaching of reproductive health to adolescents is basic life support. Parents act now!
In summary parents should teach their children that our values systems are different from western way of life. Having a feeling and love in your heart for someone of the opposite sex is different and beyond control, while _expression of the same through sex is entirely different and should be under control.
About The Author
Billy I Ahmed, is a Columnist and Researcher , writing for leading English Dailies and Journal in Bangladesh as well as overseas online newsletter. All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced in any form or by any means , in print or electronic media without written permission of the author. For reproducing or reprint, please contact the author by e-mail: thewritingtable@yahoo.com You may also visit my web site: http://www.writesight.com/writers/Billy
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Sex Toys - History and Benefits by Steven S. Ng
Sex Toys - History and Benefits
Steven S. Ng
HISTORY OF SEX TOYS
Sex toys have been used for thousands of years and many believe they had first originated from Asia. However, it was not until the ancient Greece time that sex toys such as dildos and other phallic objects were first made popular. Evidence also suggests that the Romans were the first to mass produce sex toys for a commercial purpose. The sex toys produced during these ancient times were often made out of smooth stones, carved wood, bronze or any solid fillings wrapped around in leather. They were usually long or had an oblong shape like an egg. For lubricants, olive oil was the more common choice.
The term "dildo" was derived during the 14th century Italian Renaissance from the Italian word "diletto" which means pleasure. The use of sex toys continue to gain popularity throughout these times. Dildos made out of rubber first appeared during the mid 18th century during the Victorian times. These rubber dildos were a leap forward as they can be fashioned after the penis and were much more comfortable to use.
Also during this time, the vibrator was invented. It was however not intended for pleasure, but was used by physicians to treat a certain disorder in women known as "hysteria". It was believed that this so-called psychological disorder could be treated by bringing the women to orgasm and the vibrator seemed perfect for the job. The first vibrators were steam powered.
By the early 19th century, more varieties of sex toys were introduced to the market and were featured in blue movies and erotic magazines. They were commonly advertised as "relaxation devices" to relieve stress and anxiety. By the 1940s, they were termed as "marital aids" and in 1960s, they were coming on strong as "massagers". Since the 1980s, with technology growing in leaps and bounds and fueled by imagination and passion, many types of sex toys were created including those for men and other fetishes like bondage.
Today, there are more people aware of their sexuality than in any other era and thanks to these little gizmos and the internet, sex toys can be delivered discreetly and conveniently to your doorstep. The sex toys industry has come a long way with manufacturers constantly improving on their product line.
WHAT ARE THE BENEFITS OF SEX TOYS
Millions of people throughout the world today have discovered sex toys to be a fulfilling enhancement to their sex lives. Humans are motivated by both pain and pleasure and sex toys can be a compelling reason to bring you to your peak of your sexual pleasure. Before we begin to illustrate the varieties of sex toys, it would be beneficial to know what motivates you.
Some of the benefits of sex toys :-
They can bring variety and help explore new ways of sexual intimacy. It brings the fulfillment of a satisfying sexual relationship which lubricates an intimate relationship.
Sex toys can increase your sexual fulfillment skills, complementing a sexual relationship.
They can also be used to spice up a relationship. Imagine receiving a sex toy wrapped in a romantic gift box instead of the usual tie-in-a-box.
They can help you orgasm faster and easier if you dont orgasm often or find it difficult to orgasm with your partner. Afterall, vibrators were originally intended for this.
Sex toys can bring back the pleasure even when your partner is out of town.
If you would like to take a look at the various sex toys, you can visit:
http://www.sextoysnirvana.com
About The Author
Steven consults and provides advice to the online store http://www.sextoysnirvana.com which provides various adult toys and novelty products.
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Joy Is Sexy by Irene Segal
Joy Is Sexy
Irene Segal
Joy is sexy because in embracing our joy, we embrace our positive energy and power. Joy is always there, waiting to be reclaimed. It is the bridge between living life by default and embracing life by positive design. Get sexy this week and remember that no one can tell us what to think or feel. Events and other people cannot steal our access to personal joy unless we decide to give up our personal power.
Before we can exercise our innate power to feel and express joy, we have to recognize what joy is and is not. The seedbed for our joy lies not in what we are doing, or acquiring but in what we are being. True joy is a state of personal wonder and power that comes from inside out. Our most creative and innovative work happens when we are working with a sense of joy that transcends space and time and empowers us to be the best we can be. When we are working and living with our joy, in the flow of positive purpose, we also touch the true success, abundance and satisfaction we desire
Sadly, joy is something that we often forget to access. We grow up, grow busy and forget that joy that is a gift that is available to each human being. As adults we reach joyful states by being in the present moment, but the hustle and bustle of life often leaves us with few such moments of joy. Many of us are unable to access personal joy other than in moments of physical ecstasy when we are all living in the present moment and sharing a positive expression of joy with our partner. Physical ecstasy is wonderful, but it is always fleeting. How can we access a sense of personal joy, touch the personal realm of positive emotion when we choose to
Joy starts with our ability and our decision to let go of negativity, to cling to the positive, to appreciate the present moment, to not be distracted by the past or what we envisage the future holding.
We cannot be joyful all the time, but we can grow our joy muscles, our ability to attain a joyful state that transcends what we are doing and embraces our being. Get sexy with your life; decide to embrace a state of personal joy and appreciation. Remember that joy is not something that we have to learn, it is a personal power that we all had at birth and in childhood. It is an ability that we always have the power to recultivate and regain.
Imagine if you could take just one day this week and embrace all that is positive, and put negativity on hold for 24 hours and be one with your sense of personal joy, and power.
How would you feel How would a positive focus impact your thoughts and your actions and words to others
What would your joy day look like
Take one day this week and decide to experience Just Joy. Take a day off from needs and fears, just operate from positive preferences. Learn to say no to what you do not want, and embrace what you do want.
1. Decide to cultivate each moment with positivity. If this is hard find a personal tool that works for you. i.e. put an elastic band on your left wrist, and when you feel yourself moving from the present moment, or falling into negativity give yourself a little tap with your elastic, not to hurt yourself but to refocus your thoughts on the fact that you have decided to take a Just Joy Day and to put negativity on hold.
2. Energize yourself by not letting people who are negative, draining or demanding steal your personal power, your joy.
3. Learn to be aware of your negative feelings, but to also be able to put these feelings on hold and enjoy a Just Joy day.
4. Let go of all the things that block personal joy like ego, negativity, fear. Let them go for 24 hours.
5. Share something joyful with another person, and see joy grow!
6. Focus on what is really important, focus on the positive in your life and work and how to share positive thoughts with others.
Enjoy a positive experiment, recognize that joy is sexy. Decide not to let anything or anyone get you down for 24 hours. End your day thinking about what you have learned and shared. Write to me about your Just Joy experiment! © 2004 Irene Segal
About The Author
Empowerment…. Irene Segal is a business and life coach who works with issues of change, business growth, leadership and self-empowerment. She was recently appointed as the Personal Development Expert for Enterprise Toronto, a branch of the Economic Development Office of the City of Toronto and is also an Ambassador for the Toronto Board of Trade. Irene’s professional journey includes running a multi million dollar steel business, mentoring entrepreneurs, financial consulting and co-authoring a book about coaching, Exploring Coaching. She received her coaching certification from Coach Training Alliance, who described her as one of the stars in their program. Irene was one of 10 Canadian women chosen by the Federal Development Bank to set up the first mentorship program for women in the country- Step Up. She was also the first woman Rotarian in Canada.
irene@justcoachit.com
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Sexual Networking in the Fish Bowl by Advice Diva
Sexual Networking in the Fish Bowl
Advice Diva
Most of us belong to a large circle of friends that we have known for years. Few of us have more than two circles of friends. You know what I am talking about. These are the girl and guy friends that you hang out every weekend with. You know everything that is going on in each other’s life, you are there for each other and it seems like you will always be together. We are the generation that made St. Elmo’s Fire a cult classic.
But why do we limit ourselves to dating within our own circle of friends Once you have been in that same circle of friends for a number of years the act of dating within your group can actually elevate itself to the “creepy” stage and begin to resemble incest instead of dating. A have a number of girlfriends that seem to continuously date every single guy in our group, jumping from one to the other as if it were a taste test. This behavior is not limited to the females only; my male friends enjoy the same sort of lifestyle. Myself and few others excluded, I think every one of my friends have hooked up with each other at some point in time. For example, I have a girlfriend who is sexually active with three different guy friends. She really likes one of them but he is just interested in the sex. Unbeknownst to her, he is really into another girlfriend who is the her best friend and neither one of them know about it. Meanwhile the girl he really digs is into and involved with another guy friend who is his good friend. And it goes on and on from there. Although we are all good friends, it has become a complex tangle of sexual and emotional deceit.
Casual sex can be such a pleasure. It is fabulous to have someone you can call at 2am or even on your lunch hour when you need immediate gratification. But if we are single, why do we continue to find our booty calls within our own troupe I think the answer has to do with a certain comfort level we experience when we know the person for years on end.
Instead of looking to your best friend’s ex as your next lustful victim, try moving outside of the reassuring boundaries that your circle of friends creates. For one thing, dating every one else’s ex lovers can create a nasty situation in the future. We have all seen it happen. It can cause isolation, rifts between friendships and some nasty name calling to say the least. People need to look for new dating partners elsewhere. Try new venues, grand openings, meeting people at the gym or at that trendy new restaurant. We meet new people every day yet sometimes we fear those we don’t know. There is no reason to.
Dating outside the group will also help to keep your close knit friends even closer because you will completely avoid what could turn out to be a jealous rivalry between good friends. There are four million people in the city of Houston alone and even if you don’t live in a big city such as Houston, there are bound to be thousands of available singles right where you are. These statistics hardly compare to the number of your usual cohorts….you should be able to find compatible and yummy new companions in the dating sea of singles and singlets. Stop using your own fish bowl for fishing purposes.
Now, the Diva is not saying that you should go ahead and have crazy head banging sex with every new person you meet, although that would keep the condom supply and manufacturing economy sizzling. I am just saying that we need to get out more. There is so much diversity and wonderful new people to experience everyday in the big city so why not take full advantage of it Get out there and create new social groups, meet more people and dare the world to stop you.
For questions and comments contact The Advice Diva at thediva@advicediva.com
Please visit http://www.advicediva.com for more articles by the Diva
About The Author
The Advice Diva has written three self-help guides on relationships and dating which can be found at http://www.advicediva.com. She also hosts an online advice column which is completely free of charge. The Diva does not claim to be an expert in any field. However, she has the ability to understand relationhips through past experience and her incredible insight. Aside from her website, the Diva also publishes monthly articles in two magazines and several notable websites.
thediva@advicediva.com
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Sexy High Heels For Women! by Mike Yeager
Sexy High Heels For Women!
Mike Yeager
Wearing high heels is a way for a woman to accentuate her image and style. While there are different designs and fashions for high heels: from soft and classy to wild and bold, most women agree that adding high heels gives them a little bit of flair and edge that they really enjoy.
Choosing great looking high heels will make each night an evening to remember. There are an amazing variety of high heels to choose from. It doesn’t matter if you’re looking for elegant high heels to match your favorite dinner dress, or you want something with a little more “kick” to it, you can find sleek, attractive high heels on the internet.
In prehistoric times skins or hides were probably tied around the foot for protection and warmth. The sandal, probably the earliest form of shoe, was worn in Egypt, Greece, and Rome; an early form of the boot was also known in Greece and Rome. The characteristic shoe of the Middle Ages was the soft, clinging moccasin, which extended to the ankle. It was highly decorated and was of velvet, cloth of gold, and, increasingly, of leather. Today the choices of shoes are great…wonderful styles and comfort.
If you select a quality pair of high heels you’ll feel confident in all situations.
About The Author
Mike Yeager
Publisher
http://www.a1-shoes-4u.com/
mjy610@hotmail.com
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Jeans For Work Or Sexy Jeans by Mike Yeager
Jeans For Work Or Sexy Jeans
Mike Yeager
A little over a century ago Levi Strauss invented to first modern jeans. Introduced originally as rugged, durable clothing for hard working men and women, today all social classes feel comfortable in jeans. Trends and fashion icons come and go but wearing stylish, comfortable jeans is still favored by many people. . While their charisma springs from their legendary American roots, their commercial strength rests on innovation and interpretation in the hands of jeanswear makers around the world.
While the basic structure of jeans has remained the same, there have been some colorful innovations. Consider the Bell Bottoms of the 1970’s. Tight waisted and wide flaring bottoms. Yes, jeans are versatile and durable which is why they are such a hit with people. Who hasn’t enjoyed the feeling of slipping on an old comfortable pair of trusted jeans on a lazy Saturday morning They fit well and they look great.
There are so many styles of jeans to choose from. Whether you want to mow your lawn or dress up for a business meeting, jeans just fit the bill.
Shop for jeans, flare jeans, hipster jeans, bootleg jeans, classic cut jeans, hip hugger jeans, low rise jeans, bellbottom jeans stretch jeans, maternity jeans, carpenter jeans, straight cut jeans, ultra low rise jeans and much, much more. You can do all that from the comfort of your own home. And once you have your jeans, go show the world how great you look!
About The Author
Mike Yeager
Publisher
http://www.a1-fashion-4u.com/
mjy610@hotmail.com
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Feeling Sexy During Pregnancy by Anne Cavicchi
Feeling Sexy During Pregnancy
Anne Cavicchi
Some people think that the word sexy and pregnancy do not belong together. I have to disagree. In fact, I have heard many men say that a woman is her sexiest and most beautiful when she is pregnant!
So, how do you go about feeling sexy when your belly is expanding and your body is going through so many changes So many women tell me they feel unattractive when they are pregnant, but they don’t have to!
The good news is that the days of the maternity tent dress are over! Today’s maternity wear is hip, trendy and yes, even sexy! http://maternitycorner.com/miva/merchant.mvScreen=CTGY&Category_Code=M The designers have brilliantly combined comfort and fashion in clothing that you can start wearing as soon as you discover you are pregnant right on through post-partum and beyond.
Just wearing your husband clothes may be economical – and they may fit fine over your expanding belly -- but they will not have a good fit everywhere else! Buying bigger sizes in regular clothes is also never a great idea if you want to feel good about yourself. I’m sorry to say you will just look bigger and feel frumpy.
There are several “basics” that every woman should have when she is pregnant. For your first pieces, try to stick with basics that will go with everything. A couple of good pairs of pants, jeans or skirts are a good place to start your lifestyle will determine which is best for you. Add a top or two and you are on your way! Then, as you "grow", add tops in fashionable prints and colors that will mix and match with your basics, giving you fresh new looks, as well an occasional, much needed, psychological boost. If you are really keen, splurge on some “not-so-practical” tops or bottoms to round out your maternity wardrobe. Remember, many of today’s styles can be worn after baby too!
If you cannot afford a whole new wardrobe, or even if you can and dont want to spend the money, you need to get yourself at least a couple of basics and one outfit that makes you feel beautiful and sexy -- there is no price for the way an outfit like this will make you feel!
Don’t forget your underwear! If your underwear binds you are not going to feel comfortable. There are so many great styles available now! And if you’re a thong wearer, there’s no reason to stop now. Maternity thongs, as well as the bikinis and briefs, are available in a wide variety of fabrics and colors.
Chances are you will probably require several different bra sizes throughout your pregnancy. No matter which type of bra you choose, fit is important. There should be room for expansion around the rib cage and room for expansion in the cup, but not so much that the bra does not provide adequate support. Have fun with your maternity and nursing bras -- there are so many options available!
There are also some great skin care products available now. Pamper yourself with some luxurious creams or body wash! Take some time out for you -- you deserve it!
Remember, when you feel good, you look great -- even sexy!
About The Author
Anne Cavicchi is a mom and owner of Annies Maternity Corner -- dedicated to providing a large collection of fashionable maternity and nursing wear to allow you to express your own style comfortably during and after pregnancy. We also carry all the products you will need for after your child is born. Accessories, diapers, sleepwear, breast pumps, playwear, and everything in between! http://www.maternitycorner.com
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Vix Swimwear - Unique & Sexy by Adam Murray
Vix Swimwear - Unique & Sexy
Adam Murray
This is one of many articles posted weekly on http://www.beach-supplies.com/
Way back in 1998 is when vix swimwear made a name for themselves. They introduced some very sexy, high fashion, womens swimwear into the US market. From that point on theyve been a big hit when it comes to picking out swimwear for women. The goal of this company is to provide athletic women and teenagers with top of the line, quality swimwear, at great competitive market prices.
Another thing about their swimwear is its known for its excellent fit. Since the vix swimwear fits perfectly almost every time this results in a it lasting longer. You might wonder why this would make it last longer, but the answer is simple. If it fits perfect then it wont get worn out as fast. It will also be less likely to fade because of this, not to mention feeling more comfortable.
So if youre looking for some great swimwear then you might want to give vix swimwear a look at. They offer very sexy, unique colors & styles, they are Brazilian, and theyve also been featured in Victorias secret. There is much more to come from them within this year.
About The Author
Adam Murray is currently the webmaster and author of several websites, http://www.beach-supplies.com/, is one of his newer additions.
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Plus Size Swimwear Can Be Sexy As Well! by Adam Murray
Plus Size Swimwear Can Be Sexy As Well!
Adam Murray
This is one of many articles posted weekly on http://www.beach-supplies.com/
With all the different styles and designs available for plus size swimwear even the people who are a little bit larger can be styling at the beach! First off all, you have your main 3 types of bikinis available in plus sizes, which are the 2 piece bikinis, 1 piece bikinis, and the tankinis. All these types of swimwear are available in plus sizes. Also, usually with the plus size swimwear it needs to be able to support more weight, at least in the upper chest area. This means that the support in the back is usually stronger and sometimes even has a cross shape to it.
Now when you’re ready to buy some plus size swimwear, you will be happy to know that buying it online is easy and more convenient. Although you shouldn’t be embarrassed to go your local store and browse through all the plus size swimwear, sadly enough a lot of people are. If this is the case, buying them online is a great way to avoid shopping in a retail store. It also can save you money, time, and find a better style that you like.
About The Author
Adam Murray is currently the webmaster and author of several websites, http://www.beach-supplies.com/, is one of his newer additions.
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Natural Ways To Boost Your Sexual Power In Autumn by Amy Guven
Natural Ways To Boost Your Sexual Power In Autumn
Amy Guven
If your sexual tempo is decreased after sunny summer days do not be anxious! This is totally normal. You will find a few recommendations and a special formula for men to overcome these hard days on the next lines.
According to mythology, love goddess Aphrodite was known by her own formulated preparations and ointments that she gives to her lovers to increase their sexual power. This is the reason of why today we are calling all stimulating elixirs as aphrodisiacs. Nowadays men are not such lucky and we highly recommend to read this article to men who live in big cities.
Without doubt best aphrodisiacs are Sun, a good sleep and fresh air. A good sleep is necessary for the body to pack itself up, to increase its energy and revitalize its hormones. Sun light is a powerful doping for our body including sexual hormones. The main reason of mens vitality in holidays is being relaxed in fresh air. But in Autumns cloudy days some natural reinforcements may help a lot.
Magical power of foods:
Basil, clove, ginger, onion, tomato, radish, celery, egg, carrot, red pepper, oats, asparagus, fresh onion, chestnut, hazelnut, pistachio nut, coconut, cucumber, oyster, caviar are main foods to improve your sexual power. Having them in your weekly menu selections would be a wise choice. Specially, foods containing vitamin E like pistachio, almond, hazelnut and walnut are natural drugs for impotence and erectile disorders.
Red is good for mens vitality:
When we say aphrodisiacs we generally mean drugs for men because they must be active in sexual relationships. In other words, for a successful lovemaking they must be aroused and erected. For a man vigor red color is important. In astrology Mars represents man and its sexual power, and Marss color symbol is red. So, red colored foods and drinks are recommended for mans arousal. For example red pepper, red ginseng...
A man who is always wearing pale, pastel or dark colored dresses may get less excitations. Maybe this is the reason of using red lights, red under wares, red bed sheets... to create an erotic environment. Red coral or ruby stone are also good for increasing mans energy.
Women who feel sexually less active may also profit from red color and stones. But the must important aphrodisiacs for a woman is love and affection added into lovemaking.
As vegetal aphrodisiacs, vitamins are very helpful for a successful sex life. Specially vitamin E is vital for men. Beside pills you can get vitamin E through natural foods and specially hazelnut contains many minerals and essential fat acids. To overcome the fatigue syndrome due to modern life and high technology, vitamin B is also indispensable.
Avoid depression:
Remember that behind sexual troubles, many hormonal and nourishing disorders, and heavy depressions may exist. Also, after a serious depression or a nutrition disorder only a treatment of natural mixtures may not be sufficient, in such cases help of a psychiatrist sexologist or nutrition expert is needed.
Heavy training may be harmful:
For a healthy sexual life a light and not tiring training program is as important as vegetal aphrodisiacs. A light and regular exercise program will balance your metabolism and hormonal system to keep you sexually active. But beware of heavy and tiring training programs because an extra low fat texture may cause a performance decrease.
Yoga, meditation and many other positive energy techniques are recommended to purify your brain against stress and support sexual energy. Right breathing exercises are also important for a successful sex life. If you insist for heavy training please pay special attention for a regular and healthy nutrition.
A Special Booster Formula for Men:
Put 1 kg. of a good quality flower honey into a glass pot, add 250 gr. powdered ginger, 100 gr. powdered Indian saffron, 50 gr. peeled and pounded green cardamom, 1 gr. saffron, 5 gr. pounded coriander, 4 sweet spoons of pounded stinging nettle seeds, 2 sweet spoons of royal jelly, 4 sweet spoonful of pollen, 100 gr. unshelled and pounded pistachio nut and 100 gr. of pine nut. Stir and mix the whole with a wood spoon. You can store the pot in a cool and gloomy place. If you dont have any allergy or illness against those ingredients, eat one tablespoon 2 times morning and night in a day.
About The Author
Amy Guven is partner of Vitalinfocenter.com since 2000 and the author of famous eBook "Amys Tutorial - Reshape your Womanhood" about better sex tips and techniques to improve sexual talents and maximize happiness in relationships. Being highly successful in its goal of making people sexually confident and happy, Amys Tutorial has been sold thousands of copies till today.
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Sex is a Serious Thing! by Amy Guven
Sex is a Serious Thing!
Amy Guven
Most of the questions asked to sexual health experts are about mens early ejaculations and womens orgasm troubles. When you read this you may say: Its normal, if man is coming off quickly, woman couldnt have an orgasm! But if you really think for a few seconds, surprisingly, you wont see any relation between these two events. Because, a man if he is not a boor, will prepare his woman to reach her orgasm before his ejaculation.
The other highly popular question is about the penis size! After all that porn movies many people are really confused. How and where to find such a prominent organ What is the normal size How thick and long can be the biggest How small is acceptable for lovemaking
Every mans genital is different as his finger print and the role of the penis size in a happy and successful sexual relationship is not such important. At least you dont have to be such stupid to pay sack full money to programs, drugs or advice for making it bigger! Even with a huge organ a mans chance is very limited to make her achieve an orgasm if he is not a good lover and doesnt know proper sex techniques, most probably he will cause pain instead of pleasure.
Even a man who has a miniscule dick may be a perfect lover! The only way is to learn how to make better love, how to be a better partner, instead of being paranoiacly distressed. This is normal and this is your body, love it and try to use it more creatively and with more love. Kiss and caress every part of your partners body for long time, arouse her enough, and go down and give her a nice oral love... until she reaches the climax.
Believe me, every woman loves and prefers such a talented lover in the place of a big dick entering a few times into your vagina before spurting out and then sleeping in his side as nothing happened! Naturally!
Having a small organ is not a guilt, a crime, if he knows his body and has developed many better solutions he is absolutely a CLEVER man and a perfect lover!
In regard to early ejaculations... This, also, is not a crime and if the man has not an organic disorder, may be corrected with some effort. But many men, instead of paying attention to their situation, act like early coming off doesnt make any difference in their sex life! Which may be true!
Actually you may consider the natural disharmony between two genders. Men, by their nature, want to thrust into a hole when aroused and squirt in, thats all! But woman needs a prior preparation, a foreplay of at least 10-15 minutes to be concentrated and ready for insertion.
One woman likes this position, another may choose that position, many women request clitoris stimulation besides mens thrusting... Many fatiguing services asked from men! And furthermore, if a serious and passionate relationship doesnt exist between partners, men are really exhausted in the bed. Is a natural error, an innate lack of harmony exists between men and women
Let see some different type of early comers:
Type A: The worst. He doesnt even know he is an early comer. When he likes, he takes the woman under him and ejaculates. He doesnt care anything else! For the womans orgasm What is that He hasnt heard anything about womans orgasm!
Type B: He knows about womans orgasm but act like he doesnt know. Same of the Type A, he pulls the woman under and he comes off, the only difference, if by mistake or pain, woman makes a weak sound like "ah" he will suppose she reached an orgasm but for his comfort, he will never ask her the truth!
Type C: He knows his disorder, he is sad and wants to visit a doctor but he is shamed or cant find the time to go! As a foreplay he kiss and caress her a little but he cant wait and comes off. Sometimes he cant even find times to thrust his dick into her. He is sad but life goes on!
Type D: He is aware of his early ejaculation disorder but he also knows his partners orgasm right! So, he will kiss and caress her at great length, give her a great oral love and bring her to an orgasm. Then start to make love for himself and he comes off. Because his partner reached orgasm before his quick ejaculation there is no trouble. Partners are relaxed and happy!
That means, if a man is understanding and clever the early ejaculation is not an important obstacle on the way of a happy sexual relationship. Man may visit a doctor and try to find the main reason behind this disorder and get a treatment which is totally normal, but meantime he is kind and not selfish, gives her ultimate pleasures to reach her orgasm.
An absolutely good sex for a woman is a normal dick size, a foreplay at length, long kisses and caresses, staying inside her long enough with many thrusting, knowing her favorite positions and giving her the best pleasures... not insisting on what he wants, but understanding her and giving her what she needs to get her climax.
Please remember that if she has reached to one orgasm in her entire life, she knows the best position for her, and an intelligent man never insists on a new position which may cause a lack of concentration, he will follow her orientations.
Finally, what is the womans responsibility in creating a harmonious sexual relationship Women must talk and describe what they want clearly. Of course talking to the boors will not produce a positive result but intelligent men may understand your needs. Do not imitate orgasm or do not keep silent and sleep... talk to your lovers and kindly explain your desires, if not you will lose your sexual desires and even you wont be able to masturbate and get orgasm by yourself in the future!
About The Author
Amy Guven is partner of Vitalinfocenter.com since 2000 and the author of famous eBook "Amys Tutorial - Reshape your Womanhood" about better sex tips and techniques to improve sexual talents and maximize happiness in relationships. Being highly successful in its goal of making people sexually confident and happy, Amys Tutorial has been sold thousands of copies till today.
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The Thirty Year Old Sexual Peak by Advice Diva
The Thirty Year Old Sexual Peak
Advice Diva
I recently had the unpleasant experience of turning thirty much to my chagrin. However, I will forever allege that this was not my fault. Time was moving much too swiftly and although I tried my best to stay in the sexy and swinging twenties, I lost my grip and fell flat on my face in my thirties. I am led to believe that I will not be allowed to return. The horror. The horror.
Aside from my momentary lapses of self pity, there are some great benefits to being a woman in her thirties. As you probably guessed from the title of this article, I am now in my sexual prime. It seems like a cruel joke. Guys cant think about anything but the tent pole in their pants while in their teens and early twenties. But by the time women get to the same stage, the men are calling in reinforcements of Viagra. I am sure you have all heard about this before. Women hit their sexual prime at thirty......or do they I almost half expected to become some raging ball of hormones as if I was pushed on by a button when I turned thirty. I was looking forward to it. To my dismay, no such transformation has occurred.
Shedding light on this curiosity of mine was Dr. Sandor Gardos, a doctor in sexual education. According to Dr. Gardos, the notion that women hit their sexual peak at 30 is very misleading. You will find many websites and articles on the very subject talking about how women get their groove on and peak at 30, or 35 while others say 40. But if you are talking about a hormone flux, this is simply not true. Men and women develop the same hormones at the same time: puberty. The only reason why women seem so much more interested at a later age is because we were taught NOT to be interested in sex when we were kids. If you experimented with sex like the boys did, you would be labeled the town Jezebel. Only when women mature are they able to feel more comfortable talking about and practicing sex. They finally open up and begin to feel normal about desiring sex.
Then it becomes a whole new world for women. The reason why people argue about the age of the sexual peak in women is because it varies for each women. It might take some women, for example, longer to learn how to orgasm. But when each woman finally feels comfortable with her body and the virtues of sex, it just might be like hitting puberty for her, especially if she had always lived a reserved or conservative life. This can be a great time in a womans life; a true sexual awakening. And if you measure a sexual peak by interest level, then you can say that she has hit her prime. On the other hand, there are some women who go wild and crazy in their twenties and never give a thought to those societal messages, i.e. “Good Girls Dont”. All things considered, these girls may not experience this sudden surge of sexual prowess at the 35 year mark. They have already experienced it all. Ahem. But not me, of course. I am an angel.
If there are any young guys out there who are tempted to seduce an older woman just because she may be in her sexual prime and easily lured by an open invitation, you may want to think again. However, it may interest all men and women to know that according to a recent publication in the Oxford Journals, women do experience a subtle phase of heat on a monthly schedule. Mid-month on her cycle to be exact. During this time, women are shown to be more attracted to androstenone a pheromone like sweat substance, are more attracted to symmetrical and masculine faces and more attracted to the subject of sex. Even as basic as this is, its still fun to talk about. In the same journal, I also uncovered a freaky fun fact. The word for heat, Estrus, comes from a Greek word oistrus which means Gadfly. Literally, it means in a frenzied state because when the gadflies would buzz around cattle, they would drive the cattle into a frenzied state which resembled the same state they go into when they wanted to mate. So when scientists refer to estrus in a female, remember that this concept originated from cows.
About The Author
The Advice Diva has written three self-help guides on relationships and dating which can be found at http://www.advicediva.com. She also hosts an online advice column which is completely free of charge. The Diva does not claim to be an expert in any field. However, she has the ability to understand relationhips through past experience and her incredible insight. Aside from her website, the Diva also publishes monthly articles in two magazines and several notable websites.
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Writing For Sex Markets by Katy Terrega
Writing For Sex Markets
Katy Terrega
Many professional freelancers will go their entire career without ever once writing a story about sex. Oh, they may craft a racy scene or two in the course of writing the next Great American Novel, or they might someday write an article about the latest in sexual research, but thats about as far as many writers will ever take the concept.
Then there are those freelancers who, for a variety of different reasons, have actually chosen to write and publish in the sex genre. Societal notions of perversity aside, these writers are of the same ilk as those who write about horses or gardening or education, its just that their subject matter is often more controversial. Still, the act of writing as a profession is the same no matter what the genre, although sex writing does require more of an open mind and is not, as a rule, for the more prudish among us.
But the basics - a bit of skill, a professional attitude, plenty of perseverance and a whole lot of research - are the same as for any genre.
Sex markets offer great opportunities for writers at all different levels of experience. For the fledgling writer there are many digest magazines that buy a lot of fairly well-written but rather formulaic stories. The pay for these pieces is, of course, lower than for other, higher-quality, markets but they do give the beginner a chance to earn money while honing his or her craft.
On the higher end of the scale are markets that demand excellence in plot structure and characterization. These magazines usually pay fairly well and are for writers who are experienced at more advanced techniques like dialogue, subtle humor and deftly nuanced characters.
In addition, the sub-classifications of the genre - letters, articles, stories and personal accounts - offer plenty of wiggle room when it comes to a writers ability and/or experience. Letters and essays are more of a train-of-thought process, and thus much easier for the beginner to write and sell than full-length stories or non-fiction.
This means that in sex markets, as in no other genre, a writer really can earn as she learns, starting at the lower paying markets and working her way up to the higher paying and higher quality fiction and non-fiction articles.
But dont make the mistake of thinking that, because the level of "quality" varies, you can be more lax in presentation and attitude when submitting to sex markets. Most of these editors appreciate professionalism just as much as their mainstream counterparts. Writers wanting to break into this market need to make sure that manuscripts are presented professionally and that phone calls or emails are returned promptly.
There are, however, some markets that operate in a more "casual" fashion. While this can occasionally work in your favor - a query for an article, for example, can be as simple as a one-sentence email - it can also be frustrating. Youll have to get used to the idea that not all of your submissions, queries and requests for guidelines will be acknowledged. Perseverance, so useful when writing in any genre, is even more of a requirement when writing for sex markets.
Another requirement is an exhaustive knowledge of your market and your audience. Sex markets tend to be even more specialized than mainstream markets; each magazine often targets a very specific personality as well as predilection. What this means is that in order to sell you have to do your research; youll need to study the magazine cover to cover and yes, that means the pictures, too. Of course, some sex writers look at that as a perk of their profession rather than a hardship, but thats another story. Its also imperative to request guidelines when possible because sex markets often are very specific as to style, point of view and word count; its important that you know exactly what theyre looking for before you submit.
Of course, the most important requirement when it comes to sex writing is that you enjoy doing it. Its an excellent choice for those writers who relish a challenge as well as those who enjoy stretching their imagination. Yes, its a job, as is writing for mainstream markets, and it requires the utmost in professionalism and commitment.
But writing about sex is also a whole lot of fun. Getting paid to do it, well, thats even better.
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Katy Terrega edits a free newsletter for sex writers - http: ://www.katyterrega.com/newsletter.html - as well as a paid subscriber site for same, Sex-Writer.com - http://www.sex-writer.com. Both feature articles, market listings, reviews, calls for submission and more, all geared toward fledgling as well as professional sex-writers. She is also a successful sex writer and her credits include Gallery, Swank, Playgirl, Penthouse Forum and many others.
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Esoteric Sexual Secrets by Robert Bruce Baird
AN ARISTOCRATIC UPBRINGING: There are many people who write about sex slaves on the plantation and it surely did exist but it was also the norm in Europe for many centuries. The Polos were not the first who went off to get the prized Tartar women who fetched a large multiple over ordinary men slaves. The Church was full of reprobates using concubines and producing children that sometimes were harvested for their useful ritualistic ingredients. Josephine (Rose per the next author) had a family with a long history of such things. “More concrete were the queries about the paternity of many of the mulatto women who worked in the house, like Rose’s nurse, Marion. Was she fathered by Blanque, the overseer? Grandfather de Sannois? Joseph? {Her father.} Or some other white man from some other plantation? There was little doubt about the paternal identity of the pretty mulatto slave Euphémie, who eventually accompanied Rose to Paris: it was widely accepted that she was the illegitimate daughter of Joseph de La Pagerie.” (3) There is little doubt as to the fact of Josephine having been ‘apolitically’ inclined and yet her having been doing the networking that spies must do. The ‘apolitical’ nature of the Physiocrats headed by Pierre Dupont de Nemours in the political arena is not truly ‘apolitical’ at all but it is expressed in their slogan ‘the government that governs best is the one that governs least’. This Royal intrigue had been started with John Locke and Adam Smith with the backing of the Stuart (Hibernian) Royal Society whose membership often provided the leadership for Paris’s Priory of Sion. Some of those leaders include Sir Isaac Newton, Robert Boyle and Robert Fludd. It is easy to demonstrate the need for this Enlightenment did exist in all areas of science and society but the secrecy has been maintained beyond its usefulness as I see it. Let us return to our Stuart biographer and contemplate a time when Josephine’s husband was a General in the Revolutionary Army. “During this frightening period, Rose spent much of her time, according to her friend Mme. de Rémusat, ‘busying herself with helping as many people as possible and although her reputation for conduct is questionable, that of her sweetness, her grace and the gentleness of her manner is not’. She had learned to be a skilful networker. Through her husband she had gained access to revolutionary circles, and her own background as both a Creole and an aristocrat gave her access to their {Whose enemies?}enemies. {We must not forget that her half-sister was with her as a slave and the freedom France gave slaves during this period would have made her half-sister a valuable source as well.} Armed with her own distinctive physical charms and her opportunistically apolitical attitude, she was able to navigate the maze of radical revolutionaries, Bourbon spies, foreign visitors, financiers and Caribbean lobbyists, picking up friends, flirtations and useful contacts along the way.” (4) Voudou Influences: The practice of Voudou or Voodoo is derivative of the Orisha worship of the Yoruba pantheon of spirits founded in Africa. It had been part of the Ptolemaic knowledge before they came to America with Juba II during early Roman Empire days. African people had been coming to the Americas for at least the 60,000 years shown by archaeology in South America. In fact it is possible that this started about 2,000,000 years ago and the lice research that shows a divergence around 1,800,000 years ago fits with that. The Dream Dancer’s art of Africa can still be seen in a lot of locales. It is easy to imagine this ecstatic art has not changed a great deal since man started to walk upright if not before that. The Catholic Church adapted and allowed people of the Caribbean to call themselves Santerian Catholics even though there was little actual belief or ritual changes in their daily life. Josephine clearly had a lot of Voudou influence. What might she have used this to achieve in the beguiling arts? Some of the great success she is said to have had with men can be attributed to the use of esoteric techniques for certain. Here are some of the things I think she would have been ale to do. Possess a person astrally, this could be a simple attunement or viewing and it could even include psychic sex. The use of drugs to prolong erection is obvious but it would have made her a most successful confidante and courtesan. It is best given without the knowledge of the recipient in their tea. We know that all the young women she would have been in school with were highly sought after and yet she apparently was even more adept. Perhaps her father taught her. He is an acknowledged rake or sexual expert as were others in her ancestry. Gurdjieff was able to breath a specific way and project an energy to a woman he had never been introduced to and cause them to wish to have sex to the point of losing self control. I have had some experience with these arts and there are others that would also have made her most appealing. One of the ‘flat bottom girls’ of the Creole region of Louisiana that I knew had total sensory recall. For men who are into enjoying giving pleasure this is a powerful attribute for a woman to have. It would be surprising to me if Marie-Rose (Josephine) did not have this tool or La Petite Mort. George Hamilton talks about playing a woman like a violin and I certainly played the whole orchestra with this lady. I would have her remember or recall the previous tryst when I might have brought her to orgasm through sucking on the psychic point on the upper arm while I was working the nether regions of her female anatomy. I could switch places and work four or five areas while achieving ‘withholds’ and heightening of experience in all of her ‘spots’ and it was doubled by her memory of the time I had worked the lesser erotic points working with knowledge from acupuncture and shiatsu or reflexology. MATA HARI WAS NOT AS GOOD: “The advice was written at the end of the Second World War by one of MI5’s most successful agent runners, Maxwell Knight, the real-life model for the spy chief M in Fleming’s James Bond novels. During the war, Knight headed MI5’s M/S section, which was involved in recruiting agents to infiltrate Nazi spy rings operating in Britain. And like his fictional counterpart, he did not approve of 007-style tendencies in combining the serious business of espionage with liaisons of a more amorous kind - especially where women were concerned. ‘It is important to stress that I am no believer in what might be described as Mata Hari methods," he wrote, in a reference to the First World War spy, better known for her many lovers than any feat of spycraft. I am convinced that more information has been obtained by women agents by keeping out of the arms of the man, then {sic} was ever obtained by sinking too willingly into them. For it is unfortunately the case that if a man is physically but casually interested in a woman, he will very speedily lose interest in her once his immediate object is attained; whereas, if he can come to rely upon the woman more for her qualities of companionship and sympathy, than merely those of physical satisfaction, the enterprise will last longer.’” (5) Maxwell is not too ‘smart’ methinks. I am sorry for the pun on Maxwell Smart of the series I Spy. Actually I am sure this is another case of journalism not being capable of asking the right questions. Yes, it is important not to merely flaunt one’s beauty to all comers as Socrates made clear a long time ago in reference to Sophists. That does not mean that the spy agencies of the Merovingian/Templar/Rothschild and elites who became the nations we now have are not always able to hypnotize and that they do not also train their agents to counteract such techniques. Ian Fleming was a member of MI 6’s Anti-Hitler Psychic Squad as I have demonstrated in great detail in other books. Many of his movies (And La Femme Nikita.) show clear evidence of this training. Cleopatra Was Better: One of the esoteric arts I did not mention above is a mesmeric voice. I have studied this well. Enemies of Cleopatra are on record as saying she had this gift and there are many who appreciated the rest of her ‘gifts’. She was an alchemist and the definitive book on her by Lucy Hughes-Hallett makes this clear even though that author does not explain what an alchemist really is. In fact many ministers of various religions and adepthoods use a form of hypnosis to entrance their sexual conquests or as part of what they call healing. Sai Baba of Hindu fame is currently under attack for just this kind of thing. I also know Cleopatra wrote extensive treatises on cosmetics and other alchemical techniques just as Miriam (Mery-taten or the sister of Moses/Akhenaten) of the Bible wrote an extent piece on ‘the whitening of the Stone’. LA PETITE MORT: This is a small explanation of one of the greatest techniques or gifts you can have. It is about a woman who became my second wife. Barbi was studying the Tarot and had demonstrated a great 'gift' for it. Her Empathic qualities are probably related to the early life place where she went to escape from her sexually abusive grandfather mentioned in the poem Life is a Fantasy. When we made LOVE she regularly 'blacked out' during orgasm and would 'come to' having an orgasm still. I would sometimes go with her consciously and often would change positions. This unusual sexual 'attunement' is called La Petite Mort or 'the little death'. I heard a sex ‘expert’ on TV say it was only experienced by one out of a million people. She was not able to consciously recollect her experience while 'blacked out' and I would have to help her sense what it was. This also helped her with her self-esteem issues. She later joined 'The Builders of the Adytium' correspondence course on the Tarot partially because of something else that happened this day. The 'Builders' are one of the feeder organizations in the Rosicrucian hierarchy. This hierarchy is still the subject of research for me, but at that time I already knew they aspired to be alchemists and were a Christian mystery school. Empathy is much more than the kind of listening technique covered by Steven Covey in Seven Steps or even walking a mile in another’s moccasins. It is part of how people can heal each other. About the Author
Author of over 60 books including Diverse Druids, Guest 'expert' and alchemist for World-Mysteries.com, Columnist for many Ezines
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Homeopathy and Sex by Robert Bruce Baird
Homeopathy: It is a wonderful thing to have the Joy of Learning and to make a career that you find is related to your studies. There are so many ways to get a Doctor label and thus claim expertise in the many fields and disciplines which we have broken knowledge into. Some of this is counter to real expertise and much of it just sets people apart from knowledge and each other. But people are also being segmented into classes within the hierarchy of government backed by and for elites in all so many ways. Medicine has been one of their more dastardly tools alongside religion. This next little factoid reminds me of how Edward Gibbon almost died because the British Medical system would not approve vaccinations through use of scabs as had been done by the likes of Paracelsus or others in antiquity and which was approved in the France of his era. “When the Cholera epidemic reached England, it provided another opportunity to compare homeopathic treatment with the conventional methods of the day. Regular allopathic medicine yielded a mortality rate of 59 percent compared to only 16 percent for the Homeopaths. (1) When these statistics were collected, the information was so startling that a medical commission was sent to the London Homeopathic Hospital to check the records. Though the data were duly verified, it was decided not to make them public, and the facts were not released until a hundred years later.” (2) The formation of the American Medical Association is a major issue against alternative healing or real care for people. In the late 19th Century as these issues were becoming apparent there were many who knew that the allopaths or medical doctors selling laudanum and the like were actually the ‘Killing-trade’. There are signs that stress management (don’t fret – sweat or exercise) and the connectiveness to the ‘all’ around us are again making a play to be considered in health maintenance. Vitamins and supplements are able to prove to even the most duped person receiving medical care that they work and yet some doctor’s groups and the governments that back them still disqualify doctors who advise their usage. Academics are subject to a ‘Knowledge Filter’ (Berkeley Law Professor – Johnson) or Literary Theory (UBC English Professor Graham Good) and the outright suppression of creative or thoughtful and meaningful potentials. (3) The concept of Bucky Fuller called 'the observer of the observed' and his more detailed 'creative realization' is part of what operates as we ‘project’ upon reality. For example the things we see are actually a mixture of fields of energy from the dross and less excited to the highly excited or vibrational energy inside the atomic structures. One way of visualizing this includes an aura, which is the field of energy not usually visible but associated with the solar body and integrative centers called chakras. Perhaps we could contemplate a time when all people had the ability to see or sense auras. In our socially normed 'projections' that include telling our children certain things do not exist, we have lost the conscious integration or incorporation of these fields of reality. Psychic surgeons in the Philippines and Brazil have had their energy measured during operations at the same vibration rate of 7.8 cycles. It started me thinking about how we can alter our state and how others might perceive us in these altered states. Clearly if anyone could see all the spaces between our electrons and the nuclei or between the different atoms and molecules we wouldn't seem solid by a long shot. Thus these surgeons who use no utensils would be able to energize the infected or diseased body part or tumor to remove it at an altered vibration level. There have been solid documentaries with such credible support as X-rays before a San Francisco businessman had such a tumor removed and X-rays a year later showing it hadn't returned. In the end you must decide who has the most to gain from the arguments and whether or not you want to actualize your own potential. Once you do a few things the debunkers say are impossible - then a smile will come to your face; and the intellectual conflict loses all import. String Theory knows about the harmonic forces that are less than solid which somehow combine to make what we perceive as a solid. The astrophysicists now have told us that 95% of the universe is 'Dark Matter' or ‘Dark Energy’ - so get with it before you are invisible and don't know it! Just kidding! We fear that which we cannot fully comprehend and our experts or priests and doctors include many enablers of our fears. We even allow fear to pre-empt love; which is ironic because at the end of our lives it’s not the fears or the differences that matter the most but whether we loved and allowed ourselves to be loved as much as possible. “Every new perception of knowledge is always based either directly or indirectly on older knowledge. InteliTapping allows us to connect with the oldest, yet most complete source of knowledge.” (4) Nature produced a show on the origins of music and the biological and archetypal impact it has had on our evolution and emotional wherewithal. Along with reed instruments from as long ago as 60,000 years that obviously show sophisticated development of technology, they had the cave operas of those who rubbed and drummed on stalactites. They posited that the tree-swinging hominid that like the Sumatran Gibbon co-ordinates community for protection through territorial chants, is not so much less aware as most of our great Lockean influenced academics seem to be. These animals also learned what plants are dangerous and what plants alter your spiritual consciousness. You can see it when your puppy goes outside for the first time and chews on some grass to settle its tummy. Our genes contain a lot of information or the ability to tap-in to much knowledge. The buzz you get from ‘weed’ is the buzz coming from your Thalami and Third Eye or Pineal gland that has a crystal radio receiver and grains or crystalline structures. Crystalline structures like quartz were known to be useful in the Lost Chord of the Druids and more ancient shamans. There are magnificent quartz caves in Central America and other places that would have been used by early hominids for a certainty. The Best Body Language – Sex: Long before Tantra or Bhakti Yoga there were many things ancients probably learned from intercourse, even more than most people do today. Today we have drugs like Viagra to enhance the longevity of the sexual encounter. The Mayans have natural drug for this. There are so many things which keep us busy or deflect us from spiritual insight as is noted in many Eastern systems which refer to the ‘busy-mind’ or samsara and the illusion of Maya. Second degree Wiccan students who have advanced through a rigorous training in esoteric knowledge begin a quest that many would regard as perverse pursuit of pleasure and self-gratification. The partners are often involved in other committed relationships. When a man and a woman who are interested in spiritual growth combine to experience the Tantric or Bhakti (Yoga) or ritualistic growth potential to free more than just their personal self or ego to reach the heights of spiritual or psychic possibilities; who can say what is real and what is imagined. This effort to commune with spirit is termed ‘working partners’ and the allies or guides is who they really seek to merge or work with. The imagination is undoubtedly a part of the dynamic. It isn't necessary for them to care for each other in the way lovers do. I have not done this ‘work’. Many people talk about 'soulmates' or 'dual flames' and the words become mere shadows of the real potential. At the same time sex is a dirty 'word', and act, in much of society. What can a writer say to convey the essence of all these things? If I absolve myself from the challenge of integrating these concepts, rituals and soulful realities I would simply say trust your soul and know that wherever you may go you will find something more than whatever you thought was real to begin with. If I talk about 'la petite mort' or empathic attunements with the soul of the partner that allows the self to disintegrate and become part of something larger than one person; and almost dissolve in the vastness of spirit - it will only seem like prose and poetry. The phrase ‘la petite mort’ or ‘the little death’ can in fact lead to a Kundalini type experience which can cause death. Of course, one can wax eloquent and carry on at length about any of their hopes and desires. The essence of a great working partner most probably has little to do with these aspirations and more to do with the way the soul interpenetrates all people. The glimpses of insight gained | |